Admiration sounds like you
A good admirer mentions your smile, your humour or something on your profile, and asks about you. Your curves get a compliment; you get a conversation.
Respect and safety
BBW Casual Safety: Show Off Your Curves, Stay in Control
You decide what people see, who gets a reply and who gets blocked.
Respect for every body is the first rule
Plenty of curvy women have had the message that starts flattering and turns nasty, or the "admirer" who turns out to be a prank account. If it happens here, you do not have to sit through it: block the sender, report the message and carry on with your evening. Admiration is welcome. Treating someone as a type rather than a person is not, and neither is mocking anyone's size, ever.
Reading the room
Tell true admiration from a fetish-only approach
Being fancied for your figure is the point. Being reduced to it is not.
A fetish-only approach sounds like a list
Messages about your size and nothing else, pushy requests for particular photos, or a script that would fit anyone. You owe it no reply.
Body-shaming gets one response
Do not argue and do not explain yourself. Block the sender, report the message from their profile or the chat, and get back to the people who make you smile.
Your body, your photos, your decision
- Username only
- Your real name and email are never shown, so your name cannot lead anyone to your social media.
- Town, not street
- Members see your nearest town or city, never your exact address.
- Your photos, your choice
- You pick every photo on your profile, and whether your face is one of them.
- Block anyone
- Block someone from their profile or the chat whenever they spoil the mood.
- Report anyone
- Report a profile or a message from their profile or your conversation.
Spot a scam before it costs you a penny
Flattery is lovely. Flattery with an agenda is not, and scammers often open with a flood of it because it lowers your guard. Watch for big declarations of feeling within days, a story that ends in a request for money, gift cards or bank details, a link to another site that wants your card number, and someone who will never video call however often you ask.
Anyone who swaps intimate photos and then demands money to keep them private is committing a crime. Do not pay, stop replying, keep the messages, block and report the profile, and go to the police. You have done nothing wrong, and you do not have to deal with it alone.
Make your first meet as good as the chat
- Pick somewhere public with comfortable seating for the first drink, so you can relax and enjoy it.
- Ask for a quick video call beforehand, so you know the face matches the photos.
- Arrange your own travel both ways and keep your phone charged.
- Tell a friend where you will be and roughly when you will check in.
- If anyone asks for money, gift cards or bank details, stop, report and block.
Good sex starts with a clear yes
Agree what you are both up for before things heat up, check in as they do, and stop the moment either of you wants to. Carry condoms and use them with anyone new. An NHS sexual health clinic will check you without charging, it is confidential, and many areas offer a kit you can use at home.
Every tool mentioned here is explained on the features page. Want to know who runs the site? Read about BBW Casual. Ready to look around? Start at the BBW Casual home page, or pick up first-date ideas in the Casual.uk guides.
Safety questions, answered frankly
Is BBW Casual safe for curvy women?
You decide what people see and who reaches you: your profile shows a username and your nearest town, you choose every photo, and you can block or report anyone from their profile or a conversation. The advice on this page covers the rest, from first meets to rude messages.
What should I do if someone is rude about my body?
Do not argue with them. Block them, report the message from their profile or the chat, and save your evening for people who appreciate you.
Do I have to show my face?
No. You choose every photo on your profile, so you can start without a face picture and add more once you trust someone.